I'm not going to rehash the original, but the issue does continue to cause problems in the community. Words have a meaning, when we dilute that meaning communication becomes difficult, if not impossible.
"Man, did you see that girl topping that guy?"
In that sentence, we have a few words that we have assumed meanings for, we assume girl means a female, guy means a male, and topping means she was doing something to the man.
But what happens if we follow current trends? Girl might mean a male taking a female role, or for that matter if it keeps going it could be any human. Guy could mean a female taking a male role or mean any human as well. And topping at it's current rate of slippage could mean anything, including just looking at them.
So with the words loosing their meaning we get "person, did you see the person doing something to that person?"
Which is kinda vague at best, words have meaning for a reason, they allow us to communicate, as we continue to allow people to confuse the meaning of the words, we talk more and more about less and less.
I for one want to continue to be able to communicate in a meaningful manner. So, when you read what I write, look to the REAL definitions, not the made up PC, feel good nonsense.
What are your feelings about the dilution of the language?
Comments (0) 1 Jul 2011 00:00:00
In the lifestyle we have all sorts of terms, master, dominant, top, bottom, submissive, slave, switch, etc. However people continually get these terms mixed up, and twisted around.
How many people do you know who are "dominants" who don't control anyone, who don't own anyone, and whose activities are restricted to BDSM play scenes and kinky sex in the bedroom?
We gotta have a few basic definitions for these terms before we start manipulating them.
Master - A dominant who owns someone. Someone highly skilled.
play with fact that getting a massage or blowjob may be bottoming.
Comments (0) 22 Oct 2009 00:00:00
Watching the community over time gives you an interesting perspective, a viewpoint you cannot have until you have watched for a number of years. I have watched people come in, think they know what is going on and then evolve once they learn they had no clue initially, generally the same ones pissed about what I am saying initially grow to understand and start saying many of the same things later on.
It came up that I said something to someone, and of course as happens often, they heard part of it and let that get under their skin without taking the whole. So I was not overly surprised this morning in the ALT chatroom, when the word selection and tone of certain comments reeked of venom, I have been here before, an attack was coming, hopefully the parties will grow and mature enough to realize better, I have hope for one, not so much for the other.
"Are right and wrong convertible terms, dependent upon popular opinion?" - William Lloyd Garrison
What was the attack/discussion about? Words, labels, things I tend to get preachy about at times. If you are gonna claim a label for yourself, choose one that fits, don't go calling yourself a slave if you can override your "master" on what you do, you got a laundry list of limits and overrides, fine you are a submissive, people expect certain terms to mean certain things. But some want that "slave" label, cause they think it is shinier than the "submissive" label. Nothing superior or inferior about master, dominant, top, bottom, submissive, slave, switch, or even just plain out kinky.
The interesting part about the people who want to do these attacks is that they do the exact things they condemn me for, hypocritical a little? I never claimed to be non-judgmental, we are all judgmental, the ones claiming otherwise are lying to you, grow up. Attacking someone for them expressing their views and passing along their knowledge, but getting pissed off if anyone should imply you might be wrong is seriously screwed up, but hey that is what the lifestyle and society has come to I guess.
"If all mankind minus one were of one opinion, and only one person were of the contrary opinion, mankind would be no more justified in silencing that one person, than he, if he had the power, would be justified in silencing mankind." - John Stuart Mill
Comments (0) 23 Mar 2009 14:29:16