The illusion of reputation
"Until you've lost your reputation, you never realize what a burden it was." - Margaret Mitchell
Within the lifestyle, so many build this house of cards reputation, and then defend it like zealots. They put more emphasis on perceptions of actions rather than actual deeds. Actually this is a problem with society as a whole, not just the lifestyle.
"Reputation is an idle and most false imposition; oft got without merit, and lost without deserving." - William Shakespeare
We attribute reputations to many for what they take credit for, not what we have seen them do, for the words they used, not the actual deeds. And in this, much of what is wrong is our fault. If we did not falsely give reputations to people or allow them to claim a false reputation, then things would be much simpler for those who come and see who has a "good" reputation and who has a "bad" reputation.
"Reputation is what men and women think of us; character is what God and angels know of us." - Thomas Paine
Personally I don't bother with reputation, some like me, some don't, I am prone to pulling the rug out from people using false means to make themselves look better and I despise cliques. So I am a target to many and trouble to many others. Do I go to far, yeah in a way I do, but then if everyone was doing what they should, I would not have to.
"Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are." - John Wooden
We each have to look to who we really are, and who the people we spend time with really are, are we buying the illusion? Deeds not words make us who we are.
25 Apr 2008 12:35:18
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