Or lack thereof in the lifestyle. We have all experienced it, someone says they will be there, and they are not. Or they say one thing while doing another. I am amazed at times how many people in the lifestyle, supposed dominants even, who never have money, but go out partying, who are never there when they are needed by their friends, who are perpetually late for this or that. That shows they do not have themselves under control, and are not nearly ready to control someone else.
"Facts from paper are not the same as facts from people. The reliability of the people giving you the facts is as important as the facts themselves." - Harold S. Geneen
When someone tells you something and you rely on them and then they are not there when it comes time, it messes things up, and worse, you don't trust them next time, and trust is a key factor in a power exchange relationship. If you keep trusting the people who let you down time and again, and then wonder why things don't work, head for a mirror...
"The shifts of Fortune test the reliability of friends." - Marcus Tullius Cicero
When times get hard, you will know who your friends are, they are the ones there with you in the darkness, not the ones that you cannot find. They are the ones you are leaning on and helping you walk.
"Simplicity is prerequisite for reliability." - Edsger Dijkstra
Want to learn to control yourself, then do it, it's not complicated, but actions speak louder than words, if you say one thing and everyone sees another, it shows what you are.
1 Feb 2008 14:39:29
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