On polyamorous love

"For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself" - Galatians 5:14

Polyamory means "loving more than one". This love may be emotional, spiritual, sexual or any combination. The nature and degree of each of these aspects will be entirely up to the participants.

"In a full heart there is room for everything, and in an empty heart there is room for nothing." - Antonio Porchia

Obviously the emotional and spiritual aspects are more important in most relationships, that is not to say a purely sexual relationship will not work for a time, but in time the sexual side of things will dwindle and decline, while the emotional and spiritual will remain and even hopefully grow and deepen.

The pitfall of most poly relationships is jealousy, some people have none, as odd as that may seem, some just never had it to begin with. But for those that do it can be a difficult emotion to overcome. Jealousy is not a proof of love, but actually an indication of a limited love, but also jealousy is not a moral failing, it is simply an emotion that must be recognized and dealt with, just as anger or depression must be. Allowing jealousy to control your actions is no better than someone who has anger issues attacking others, or someone who has depression issues attempting to kill themselves, negative emotions need to be dealt with and addressed. Learning to recognize and control feelings of jealousy can be difficult, but like any other emotion, while you cannot stop the feeling from appearing, you can push it from your mind and move on without acting on it.

I prefer to think there are not polygamous and monogamous people, those are simply types of relationships, if we truly open ourselves to loving one another we all end up in the relationships that are healthy and right for us, be that a monogamous or a polygamous relationship. I have described myself as poly in the past simply to label that I will not close doors to allowing someone into my heart simply because I was "in a relationship", when we limit or close off love, I feel we do the world a great disservice.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; It is not self-seeking, nor easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongdoing. It does not delight in evil, But rejoices in the truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, and preserves. There is nothing love cannot face; There is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance. In a word, there are three things that last forever: Faith, hope, and love; But the greatest of them all is love." - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

15 Nov 2007 11:11:59


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