BDSM Safety - Warning Signs & Red Flags

? Is the other person domineering (there is a difference between domineering and dominant) or bullying?
? Does the other person seem to be hiding something? Do they avoid answering reasonable questions?
? They have no lifestyle references or friends in the lifestyle you can speak to about them.
? Are they inconsistent in what they write or say? Do they contradict themselves?
? Are they presumptuous about the relationship? Do they expect complete submission from a stranger? Are they ready to collar you and move into your home on your first meeting?
? Do they seem more interested in sex than you are? Does it seem like they want cyber sex from the beginning when you're looking for something else?
? Do they respect your concern about safety or do they belittle your precautions and try to coerce you?
? Do they try to isolate you from friends, family, and other people in the lifestyle?
? Do they have nothing nice to say about past partners?
? Do they understand that cyber is more fantasy than real time is?
? Do they use/abuse drugs or alcohol?
? Do they seem a perfect match? Maybe too perfect? Remember, bottoms outnumber tops, any top who wants a long term relation has one, or has hidden issues.

John Edward Robinson AKA ?slavemaster? presented himself as a divorced millionaire master in need of a woman to care for his invalid father. He was still married to his wife of 38 years, his father was dead, and his financial empire, like the exclusive "International Council of Masters" of which he claimed to be a member, was all smoke and mirrors.

12 Mar 2008 15:25:34

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