BDSM Safety - Online

Even online there are dangers, both to tops and bottoms alike. We like to think online is safer, but with the realities of stalkers and predators, and the emotional damages we can suffer or cause, online is just as real a danger as in person.

? Do your homework, this means study up on who you are talking to, learn what is and is not acceptable.
? Don?t answer every e-mail or IM, just because someone claims to be a master, dominant, top, submissive, slave or bottom online, does not make it real, and taking abuse or harassment from someone is nothing you have to do.
? When you first enter a new chat room, don?t talk for a little while, just observe, and view profiles. When you do speak, don?t identify what or who you are, just make polite conversation. Show them respect and they will respect you.
? Never give out your personal information in a public chat room, you never know who is watching.
? Never give out your personal information to someone you have just begun talking to and have not checked into.
? Discreetly ask around for references or people who know the people you are interested in. While there may be bad blood to cause some to say bad things, if multiple people say bad things, there may be some truth to it.
? If someone wishes to speak with you on the phone, and you are not sure if you trust them, get their number and disable caller-id information before you call, keep the call brief and friendly.
? Do not move into meeting in person too quickly, even if they are local, get to know them and check references.
? If someone does not want you talking to others about them, ask yourself why, usually they have something to hide.
? If you talk to someone long enough to give them personal information and they won?t give theirs, ask yourself why.
? Always remember there are predators online.

13 Mar 2008 09:51:08

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