BDSM Safety - First time meetings

OK, so you have been talking to someone, maybe you met them in a chat room, a personal ad or however you got in contact, now it is time to meet, what can you do to be safer?

? Set up the meeting well in advance, this gives both people ample time to arrange safety nets and to be sure of the location.
? Make your own arrangements, if you are traveling, make your own hotel reservation, and do not tell the other person where you will be staying.
? Do not plan any play or sex on a first meeting, while some contact is normal, a first meeting is to talk and get to know one another, if things go well there will plenty of time for play and sex later.
? Arrange the first meeting in a public place, like a restaurant or mall, somewhere a lot of people are.
? The meeting should take place during daylight hours.
? Arrange safe calls with someone you trust, a call as you are arriving and another as you are leaving at the minimum, preferably some during the meeting time as well. Do remember to make your calls, unless you want the police called to your location.
? If you have a good friend, bring them along, there is safety in numbers.
? Don?t leave your food, drink, or purse unattended.
? Let several friends know who you are meeting, where and when, make sure they have accurate descriptions of yourself and the person you are meeting.
? Arrange a ?Danger? phrase with a friend, if you call them and say the word, it means you need help, make it something innocent like ?How is your son doing?? for a friend with no children.
? Be honest, if you don?t feel a connection, let them know.
? Have a good time, but be safe, if things work out, there is always tomorrow for more.
? Make sure when you leave that you are not followed.

13 Mar 2008 09:54:12

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