BDSM Safety - Emotional Safety

Pain is not always physical, sometimes it is in your head or your heart. And while physical pain heals quickly, emotional pain is slow to heal and leaves lasting scars.

Erotic Power Exchange relationships are based on trust, love and respect, if you are looking for a long term relationship or just playing for a session, the emotional aspects do enter into what it is that we do.

? Be honest, with yourself and with others. If you are not looking for an emotional connection, don?t say you are looking for a 24/7 relationship.
? While many in the lifestyle are married to vanilla partners, there are emotional issues to deal with for married people who are cheating on their spouse, make sure the spouse knows.
? Never be ashamed to admit when you don?t know something, or to ask questions of those who are more experienced.
? Do not reveal too much about your personal life to people, this leads to heartache and gossip.
? Heed warnings people give you. Take into account it is someone?s opinion, but be forewarned.
? If something does not feel right, stop it.
? Don?t allow yourself to get dragged into cliques or gossip circles, it might seem fun for a while, but it will always come back to haunt you later when they turn on you.
? Be yourself, trust your instincts, often your subconscious will know we are in danger well before we do.
? No one can tell you what is or is not right for you, only you will be able to determine that.
? If you are dealing with self-esteem issues, humiliation play is likely not for you and you may want to go slower into relationships to prevent becoming dependent on your partner.
? Many bottoms are looking for a protector figure, this can and does lead to dependency relationships.

12 Mar 2008 15:21:52

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