Rumors and Reputation
"Nature abhors a vacuum but why do most people hasten to fill in the blanks with garbage?" - Vanna Bonta
We have all been at the receiving end of rumors at one point or another in our lives. Often the source of the rumor is not even all that well informed, or even if they are informed, they are jaded or spreading a false rumor out of spite. Sometimes the rumor comes from a misunderstanding.
I am guilty of that last one, a while back someone had asked me what I thought of a particular rigger, I connected two different things I knew to create a bad perception of him. One, I knew he had made a comment that he did all the rigging at a particular event from the beginning. And two, I knew an accident had occurred and someone got hurt due to bad rigging at that event. I mistakenly connected those two, not knowing that at that particular event someone else had been doing the rigging. For that I have apologized to him, if he wants it in public, I can do that.
And all this damages our reputations, both the rumor monger and the person the rumor is about. We may sustain our honor, since no one can take that from us, but how others see us can be damaged severely.
Part of being visible is being a target of rumors, part of being in relationships is that rumors will spread about you from those jealous of what you have, to those pissed off they are not getting what they want. And in power exchange this becomes even more pronounced, the jilted dominant or submissive may spread rumors to attempt to win attention from others.
I know I have been, currently am, and will continue to be the target of many false rumors. I know the sources, I know the rumors, I know it will continue. I simply make the choice to live my life, and let the rumor mongers feed each other, maybe the weather is nice in their fantasy world.
Of course the chat rooms and IM feeds them, they can gossip to their hearts content without having it known they do it. Often no one keeps record of it, it just vanishes with time.
Maybe if we all quit feeding them, they will go away, either that or do what I do, just poke them now and again for some fun. Trust me it is good to lift your spirits to see how many of their views are totally off kilter. Might even get you to smile or laugh.
I am thankful for those who are close to me and who know who I am and what I stand for, their support means the world to me.
"A rumor without a leg to stand on will get around some other way." - John Tudor
7 Oct 2009 00:00:00
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